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Jeez. . .

The beginning of last year, two of my friends think about dating and get together. I urge the girl not to do it. I even suggest to the guy friend when he asks for suggestions for a place for a date that he should take her to some cheap restaurant. They start dating. They become boyfriend and girlfriend. What do you know. . .three or four months later, he dumps her, pretty much leaving her in tears and angry. Everything's generally all cool, but there's two more situations. I did tell her, though.

One guy friend starts annoying everyone more than usual. I tell everyone to talk with him, let him know that he's annoying them, etc. etc. They just talk behind his back, more and more. He flips out then decides one of the people I advised to talk with him wasn't his friend anymore. I didn't see that happen so much, but I did see the flip out.

Recently, another guy and another girl start dating, just at the end of last year. Seemed OK to me, except everyone talking about how they're moving too slow physically and how they should crank it up a notch. I keep telling everyone to let the two go at their own pace. If they're going to do it, they'll do it at their own pace. Last week or so, they break up and it's kind of messy. The guy had grown more attached to her and wanted to "take it to another level" while the girl wanted out. She waited weeks to break it off with him while his feeling and desire grew stronger. I talked to him right before she broke it off and just told him, if anything, to do things subtly, take it at his own pace, show and compliment rather than talk about feelings and just stuff that a guy should do when first dating a girl. He had already sent her roses for Valentine's Day with a note about taking it to the next level and had called her a ton of times in one day and made plans when she had already told him not to do so (not necessarily the greatest communicator, but still. . .). Anyway, explosion of a break up, girl just wants it over with while guy felt all these mixed messages from everyone and the girl. . .everyone (but me) is telling him to kiss her and maker all these moves while he picks up on the girl's body language of "don't kiss me." All the while, I get to hear all the gossip about how the girl just wasn't attracted to the guy but told him something about being too screwed up to date anyone while the guy feels that everyone in this little group of friends had basically urged him to "to take it to the next level," physically, especially one girl in the group who, pretty much, was "advising" both of them. But now there's a big blow up and no one's talking to each other and just has all this anger with the talking down about one person or the other, especially when those people aren't in the room. I friggin' told people to just leave these two alone, but no. . .!

So yeah, I'm a little frustrated by people not taking my advice then having this stuff explode all around me because of one person acting like an idiot or a whole group of people gossiping.

Stupid heads.