2024.09.04
When you are craving some one to listen to you and or vent to and or commiserate, what percentage is "just wanting to be heard/felt/seen/validated" vs... I dunno, mostly just hoping the stressor will go away?
Lemme know!
For me I feel it's 1/3 the former 2/3 the latter. I'm always willing to listen, but I don't always want to vent, at least not to an individual - I'm sort of too aware that being reminded they are likely helpless to materially help isn't a pleasant feeling for them...
Even validation- sometimes most usefully channeled as "it makes sense that you feel that way", which validates the feeling without necessarily agreeing to all parts of it - seems like it could backfire for me. I mean who wants to hear "boy that situation really does suck!" (or its opposite, "that's not so bad, people have it worse, buck up")
I dunno. I do feel blue today, and I sort of want people to hear about it. Maybe it's yet another ego thing; I want people to admire what a stalwart little muddler-through I am.
Scientists making mech bodies for mushrooms...
uplift!
though I wonder if there's a sign of true intentionality? or is it like when you have plants make stock picks, but you don't really suspect they know what they're doing...
Also, it does make you wonder about reaction time (though I guess the video is sped up 10x). Like life at human speed must be ridiculously fast for most things.
(Also I think about the comic Supergod - one of the most pervasive deities was fungus based, who was kind of an avatar of death/rebirth...)
The blues isn't about feeling better. It's about making other people feel worse.
