2024.09.25
While people are fairly young and the musical composition of their lives is still in its opening bars, they can go about writing it together and exchange motifs (the way Tomas and Sabina exchanged the motif of the bowler hat), but if they meet when they are older, like Franz and Sabina, their musical compositions are more or less complete, and every motif, every object, every word means something different to each of them.I thought of this when someone linked to an article Is making friends as an adult really hard, or is it just me? - even though the topic of the quote is romance, I think the idea is similar.
I know friends and bands - and the two overlap mightily for me over the past decade - are the main things keeping me in Boston (other than inertia) instead of retreating to NJ with my folks (with the benefit of being with and also supporting them.)