September 11, 2022

Atlantic Piece on Attachment Styles and their impact on making strong friendships. Secure, avoidant, and anxious. "Secure people assume that they are worthy of love, and that others can be trusted to give it to them." Trying to think how that blends with one of the other big explanatory models, fixed mindset vs growth mindset. Like, I think I'm fairly secure in my attachment outlook (though I can see elements of the other types) and that's rooted in the confidence fixed mindset provides for me - that what I am won't change much, but it's pretty good. (And for me, I think most of this is secondary to how I think Truth is emergent from connections with other people and not rooted in the individual, but that's a whole 'nother long-winded bag of worms.)